Having a wedding isn’t as simple as saying “I do” — and it’s a lot more expensive.
The national average cost of a wedding is $35,329, according to The Knot’s 2016 Real Weddings Study.
Here’s what you should know about wedding costs and how to realistically estimate what you’ll spend to take the plunge.
Know the averages…
These are the average price tags for common wedding expenses, according to the 2016 Knot study:At the very least, you’ll need a marriage license. Application fees vary by state, county, city or other conditions. The standard license fee is $27.50 in New Orleans, $50 in Boston and $100 in Santa Barbara, California.
…But don’t let the numbers fool you
The $35,329 average is an all-time high in The Knot survey’s 10-year history — and that figure excludes the honeymoon. But remember that averages don’t tell the whole story. Experts point out that they can easily be skewed.
“One $1 million wedding can bring up the average of thousands of $10,000 weddings,” says Jessica Bishop, wedding expert and founder of the Budget Savvy Bride.
So treat this data as a benchmark, not an expectation. And you don’t have to spring for all the items on the list. For example, you might decide to skip favors and hook your smartphone up to a speaker system instead of hiring a band or DJ.
The price is in the details
Even if you plan a wedding with all the bells and whistles, you can still lower costs by being flexible about certain factors:
- Hired help. Asking a friend to bartend and making decorations yourself are cheaper than paying for professional services and premium packages.
- Location. Where you get married matters, and not just for the venue. For example, the average wedding in Manhattan costs $78,464, compared with an average of $21,688 in West Texas. If you plan to tie the knot in a major metropolitan area, expect higher prices and increased competition for venues and other services.
- Guest list size. Some venues have minimum and maximum guest requirements and are priced accordingly, and vendors might charge per head for food and drink. Headcount affects expenses across the board, says Deborah Moody, executive director of the Association of Certified Professional Wedding Consultants. “With 10 less guests on your list, that’s one less table, 10 less chairs, 10 less place settings, 10 less favors, one less centerpiece,” Moody says. “By cutting your guest list by 10 or 20 people, you may actually save yourself $1,000.”
- Season. That sunny summer wedding probably comes with a trade-off: price. Ceremony sites, reception halls and photographers are known to offer lower rates during off-peak months, such as January or February.
- Day of the week. Saturday is the most popular day for weddings, and high demand often comes with a higher price tag. You might be able to save by scheduling your big day on a Sunday or weekday — unless it coincides with a popular holiday.
Compare prices and services
Once you’ve picked the services you want, the best way to identify fair prices and approximate the total bill is to ask around. Talk to friends and family who’ve recently gone through the process or consult a wedding planner. Get quotes from multiple vendors. Then choose the options you think are the best value.
As you shop around, pay attention to what’s included in the fees. Some venues provide tables, chairs, linens and audio equipment at no additional cost. Others charge extra or require you to rent these items from outside sources. Compare apples to apples as you evaluate costs.
Negotiate if necessary
If you find it necessary to negotiate, do it carefully and respectfully. “You don’t want to nickel-and-dime a professional person who has set their rates the way that they’ve set them for a reason,” Bishop says. She adds that vendors just starting out in the business usually charge less than those with more experience.
If you have a wedding planner, he or she should know what’s reasonable and where to find wiggle room, Moody says. “If you can find a place where they can do the wedding as well as the reception, then they should be willing to give you a break on the price,” she says.
You can also lower rates on your own. Consider asking vendors to cut back on what’s included in their packages. For example, ask the photographer to work a few hours instead of the whole day, or find out if the caterer can limit guests to one or two drinks instead of offering an open bar.
Anticipate extra costs
Even with careful planning, surprises are bound to pop up. Bishop suggests allowing for a 10% buffer to cover hidden fees, overages and add-ons, such as cake cutting and delivery fees, taxes and gratuities.
Add it all up
Don’t bow to pressure from relatives, friends, social media or spending reports. Your wedding spending should align with your income, regular expenses and other financial goals.
Once you’ve established a budget, decided the kind of wedding you want and begun to compare costs, plug in the numbers. Use our calculator to help you figure out what you’ll spend overall.
Looking for ways to stay on budget? Check out our 19 Ways to Save on a Wedding.
Lauren Schwahn is a staff writer at NerdWallet, a personal finance website. Email: email@example.com. Twitter: @lauren_schwahn.